What To Do when having High Expectations Stresses You Out!

YES GIRLS

For as long as I remember my dad has never, ever actively supported me in in the pursuit of my ‘dreams!

On the contrary, he always did his best to discourage me! Finally, after years of non parental cheerleading I asked him- and his answer? It might surprise you:
I don’t want to encourage you – because I don’t want you to be disappointed if it doesn’t work out the way you imagined it!”

BAM Wham Slam! So much for parental support!

Or, did my dad read “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” by Deepak Chopra?

“Don’t be silly now Christina. Your dad is as spiritual as a fish on a bicycle!”

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Unbeknownst to my father he put into practice the 6th Law of the book, the Law of Detachment! In his own German- twisted kinda- way that is!

Here is an extract of the chapter I am talking about” ...in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn’t mean you give up the intention to create your desire…..You give up your attachment to the result!”

Before I read, re-read and fully understood Mr. Chopras text I was full of expectations for myself. For my ideas. For my business pursuits! For everything I’ve done in the past I set my standard high! There is a giant inside of me. Of course I can do it! Of course I will win the hearts of my readers, sell my products, will reach the top.

And I still do! Today I still fuel my ideas and dreams with the intent and the desire to make them happen. The only difference is, I have learned to detach myself from the outcome!

Of course, researching, practicing, studying and rehearsing are still part of the game! The attitude is still positive! The self belief is still high -if not higher than 30 years ago! All I do now is put my father’s self-protection into place: No expectations!

Regardless of what I do, regardless of what I give, I expect …nothing in return! Over the years I’ve learned it’s so much better to have no expectations and became pleasantly surprised by the result than expecting the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and receive…nothing!

No more disappointment.

No more stress!

To more worries or embarrassment.

And all this with the little act of being detached from the outcome of my action!

There is a spiritual guidance in even the most hardcore, conservative, protective parent after all!

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Let me hear from you: Have you heard of the Law of detachment? And if yes, have you ever practiced it? With what result? Please let me know and share your thoughts with us!

 

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